A Way Out: A Dynamic of the Mind
All people experience trauma in their life. Physical trauma happens in many forms to all of us; we fall down as babies, scrape our knees, trip over our own feet as kids, we learn to ride bikes, boards, we have accidents, we get hit or punished, some of us are abused, etc. Emotional trauma happens in the happiest of families; when a little one gets hurt or frightened, someone didn’t notice an upset, perhaps they stayed alone overnight in the hospital. Although trauma continues to happen as people get older, it is the early trauma experienced as an infant, or a child that remains most deeply rooted in the subconscious.
No matter the depth of the trauma, it is never gone. Every moment of our lives is recorded and saved on the hard drive called the subconscious mind. Every moment is a contribution to the whole of the being we become, while our bodies are an expression of all that is stored on that subconscious hard drive. (See Your Body is Your Subconscious Mind by Candace Pert, PhD and Your Body Speaks Your Mind by Deb Shapiro.)
The science of epigenetics explains that virtually every ailment we suffer has roots in the stored trauma held in the energetic body, the subconscious. Homeopathy treatment is based on a similar understanding that says a physical condition can be healed with the energetic essence of the thing that ails us.
Trauma lives within us, but separate from us. In the moment of trauma the piece of being that is traumatized experiences a separation from the whole. Imagine that your existence is a stream of your life flowing like a river through time. The moment of trauma causes an eddy in the stream and now the experience of that moment separates off into a circular flow while you continue on in the flowing stream of your life.
Inside the eddy the trauma cycles, and recycles, reliving the pain or fear of that moment when it became separated, over and over in a continuum. The next moment, life continues, the conscious memory fades. We are taught to get over it and often we believe we have. We learn to adapt, to become very functional, we live our lives, with our eddies underneath it all, reliving, reliving and reliving a moment of trauma.
We are incomplete in every place there is trauma in our life stream. Incompletions accumulate and our well being begins to pay a subtle penance for them as a result of the incongruent flow of our life stream energy being spent in the eddies.
Life wants to be whole and it wants to flow unhindered. Your being wants to heal the energy pinned back in time in those eddies and incorporate it into the full flow of a whole being once again.
So, the memories touch us now and then to let us know they are still there. Bits of ourselves that want to be remembered and acknowledged, accepted and know they are not abandoned. They pull to be whole with us.
Epigenetic science informs us that it is this stuck energy, these lost pieces of ourselves, the incompleteness of the whole of ourselves, that is at the core of our fears, anxiety, depression, anger, frustration. They are the root of our cold, flu, back ache, rash, headache. They incubate the source of our developing chronic ill health.
As we move along in the flow of life we lose the conscious memory of many of the little traumatic episodes and they are remanded to the dark corners of subconscious identity. Unforgettable events attain a dual status whereby they underlie consciousness and tug our subconscious reactions as they recycle in conscious memory and provide justification for disempowerment, inability, vengeance, blame, shame, guilt and the like.
Coming to embrace this level of understanding ourselves provides a gateway to completion and the recreation of our whole self. It allows us to accept our total being as who we really are, including who we are not, although we may wish we were. Acceptance releases judgment and resistance, repression and denial of self. In that space of true connection and ownership of our personal and individual being-ness the opportunity for reunion becomes available.
Once this dynamic of being is embraced, understood and accepted as reality; as just what is so, we lose the need to explain away or justify our lesser nature, especially in knowing this nature is true for everyone, we begin to find inner peace. We may not like (judgment) what we need to accept, yet we cannot heal until we do.
Consider that although those eddies in our life stream continue to recycle experiences of trauma, they also hold valid and valuable elements of who we are. They are reliving the shock and pain of being unwhole, alone and abandoned and they are held in that space by our denial of them. Without understanding the signals they give us, which manifest as things like sadness, bad moods, bad days, pains, illness, negative reactions to life itself, and disease we resist and reject the experience and work to make it go away, or worse, condemn ourselves for having the experience. We look to attribute the experience to people, places and things outside of ourselves and/or we come to believe there is something wrong with us.
The way out of this cyclic phenomenon is actually the reverse of what we have conditioned ourselves to do. The stuck and wounded pieces of ourselves are screaming to reunite. They need our attention, our love, our embrace and forgiveness in place of denial, repression, judgment and rejection.
There is no one else who understands as deeply as we ourselves how the wounding felt and continues to feel and how we were left when it happened. What we have told ourselves, about ourselves, as that piece of self remained behind, alone in that moment, waiting to be rescued. Imagine the child that was you who was hurt, isolated, as you moved on downstream without him or her. That child has been mourning your loss and waiting through time for your invitation for it to return to your open arms. To help you feel whole again.
It is not necessary to relive the incident in order to reincorporate our separations, releasing our eddies. The incident happened when it happened and is no longer happening. It is the impact of the incident that lives on in us, at the same time separate from us, through time. It is this piece of our emotional, feeling body which became stuck and unacknowledged.
Allowing the emotions, the hurt feelings, the thoughts, the confusion, the fear, the loss to surface in a state of calm presence as we observe them with acceptance and non-judgment is what inspires freedom from pain and loss and allows the healing to begin. We can observe what arises from our inner being without getting hooked into suffering when we are in a state of mindfulness.
Mindfulness arises from awareness created in the calm and peaceful experience of truly being in the present moment of now. This is a meditative state of openness and acceptance, unburdened by the past or the future. In this state the mind is quiet and allowing. Suppressed emotions and disempowering thoughts can arise without judgment or resistance. Those thoughts and emotions can be observed, acknowledged and allowed to pass on their way freely. They go where they need to go to allow the little piece of you attached to them to discharge the negative bond and find their rightful place within the whole being that you are. This constitutes emotional healing.
Mindfulness practices are extremely healing on all levels of being. As we have said, the new science demonstrates that the mind is not only the healer, it is the source of all dis-ease. Daily mindfulness practices are very subtle, yet powerful means to develop a mind capable of causing wellness.
The secret is in daily practice, as improvements happen slowly and over time. Having patience and commitment to the process will prove the benefits of sustaining the practices. Teaching children to practice and achieve a state of mindfulness will help them remain whole when traumatic events necessarily come to them.
There are many ways to practice mindfulness, many benefits to training the mind in this way. Ultimately, the ability to live life from a more mindful perspective will develop and become a natural function.
We recommended a few resources to begin;
http://bodyelectrician.com Place your cursor over the "Balancer Protocol" tab and then over "Mindfulness". The descending menu provides several articles including "Mindfulness Meditation: Guided Practices"
There are several videos on how to meditate on this page
The Self Connection Experiment explains another perspective on the value of this practice. How Kyle Cease Meditates is a good description of a mindful meditative practice.
Here is a written piece that contains a description of mindfulness practice and on the side is a video in which Teal shares much of what this article addresses.
Once one becomes familiar with the value of mindful practices and how to do them, a personal style will develop that will become natural and automatic.